Marion Haydon

                       Heading towards Cape Campbell, South Island, New Zealand

Meet Sylvia, my vibrant 78-year-old sister who challenges the notion that age equals decline. In a recent conversation, I delved into what keeps her remarkably fit and healthy at her age.


When I asked Sylvia to rate her health on a scale from 1 to 10, she modestly said 7. She quipped that being a perfect 10 at her age would be a wrong. When I asked what she would need to do to be a 10 she answered, "I'd really need to do nothing at all!" noting that compared to some of her peers, she's already top-notch. In her early days Sylvia carried a bit of extra weight which was common in our family, however her lifestyle has seen her maintain a healthy weight for many years.



Our discussion then turned to her lifestyle choices.


Sylvia doesn’t enjoy staying still for long and stays active with walks, bike rides, gardening, and gym sessions (usually 3 times a week) featuring step classes, strength training, and brain exercises alongside fellow septuagenarians and even an octogenarian.

While she played netball during her school days, regular exercise started with walks in her 30s and progressed onto running. She also played tennis and badminton when her children were younger and kept on with tennis later. Sylvia's fitness journey saw her complete multiple half-marathons and a full one (I didn’t realise she had completed so many, she was much more active than I ever was!) despite early struggles her husband reported with her being “unable to run between lamp posts."


I asked her why her exercise regime is still important now and her answer was “I want to be able to walk up straight. I don’t want to have to lean over on the supermarket trolley like so many other people of my age.” An example of how being able to tap into what motivates us is an important part of achieving our health and wellness goals.


She believes that a balanced diet rich in whole foods including a variety of vegetables and good quality animal protein, all prepared at home is key to her getting good nutrition. She enjoys a glass of wine, a meal out and a treat when she feels like it.


Beyond fitness and a healthy diet, Sylvia finds joy in the friendships she has made in her gym classes and volunteering, cherishes her strong loving marriage, and values close ties with family, long term friends and neighbours. Having meaningful social connections is recognised as an important part of a healthy lifestyle.


Although sometimes not sleeping as well as she would like, Sylvia gets adequate rest to support her active lifestyle. She told me she sleeps much better in the winter when the nights are cooler.


Sylvia's vitality allows her and her husband to enjoy travelling around New Zealand by caravan, revelling in the freedom of being able to pack up and go whenever the mood takes them. They recently travelled here to Tasmania with friends and spent two weeks taking in the sights by car.


In sharing Sylvia’s story, I hope to challenge the stereotype that aging inevitably means decline. Amid headlines of aging populations needing care, Sylvia exemplifies that with a healthy diet, regular exercise, and a rich social life, aging can be a time of vitality and freedom, and while it is never too old to start on a health and fitness journey, establishing good habits earlier in life can have real benefits. I’m very proud of my sister.


By Marion Haydon June 27, 2024
Some thoughts about what motivates us.
By Marion Haydon May 28, 2024
You might be asking why I am a health and well-being coach and facilitator? What fuels my passion to support others in this space? Well, my journey began with a lifelong struggle with being overweight, starting in my early teenage years. Despite trying every diet imaginable, initial successes were short-lived and I found myself trapped in a cycle of weight fluctuations. My motivation to lose weight began because I wanted to fit it with my peers. I was labelled as the ‘fat one’ in the classroom, my self esteem was really low, and I was desperate to be liked. This need to be liked drove behaviours that impacted negatively on the choices I made, along with my emotional well being, as I navigated early adulthood. My emotional wellbeing was further impacted by the sudden death of my father who died from a massive coronary in front of me when I was 17. He was a wonderful Dad, but his health was comprised by excessive weight and smoking. Trauma counselling wasn’t all that common in those days and panic attacks became a regular part of my life; frightened I was going to drop dead suddenly at the slightest hint of not feeling well. Despite this, I continued my unhealthy relationship with food, including periods of binge eating. I remember a day sitting in the locker room of a bank I worked in, consuming a whole packet of cream biscuits, ignoring how sick it was making me feel. I started many days with a resolution to eat healthily, only to have my resolve unravel by lunchtime. As the years passed, I realised maintaining a healthy weight wasn’t solely about appearance. Witnessing others grapple with weight-related health problems highlighted the broader impact. Then came a light bulb moment, it was all about my health. As I neared my 50 th birthday I decided that I wasn’t going to age burdened by chronic disease, and my journey to better health began. When I concentrated on my health, and not only the scales, my weight began to come down and over the next few years I maintained a reasonably healthy weight, although, my cholesterol levels started rising and the level of alcohol I was consuming wasn’t good for my health. Although I had long been aware that a healthy lifestyle was important, four years ago I started to research, and then undertook study, to find out what that really meant. I discovered that a lifestyle that focused on good nutrition, regular exercise, good sleep and positive relationships could stop you developing and sometimes reverse some chronic diseases. I have now found a way of eating that keeps me healthy and has stopped my cholesterol from continuing to rise, although it is still just over the national guidelines. I’m told it is most probably familial as most of my family have the same issue. I still enjoy the odd glass of wine but no longer drink to excess. At 71, I am healthier and fitter than I have ever been, and I am passionate about supporting others to meet their own health and wellbeing goals. One thing I have learned is that getting older doesn’t automatically mean you’ll have to suffer from a chronic disease. The Australian Institute of Health and Welfare report that 80% of Australian’s over 65 suffer from one chronic disease and 28% suffer from three or more. When you think about it, why would you work hard all of your life only to spend your retirement years (if you want to retire) swallowing a handful of pills every day that may stop the condition you have from killing you, or worse still, be in a hospital bed recovering from heart surgery? And that’s why I do what I do!
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